Well I no soon posted my blog on the Throat Chakra Spread when I needed to put it into action.
My 9-5 is a very challenging office; we have two different teams in one office where some of the clients overlap between teams. Not only do we work in an area of high stress and burn out, over and under compassion as well as high demand with not enough staff; it is an environment with very different personalities. We are very diverse which is awesome but also very heavily female staffed. Now don't get me wrong, I am not anti-female; I am one. I am what I describe as having a more masculine personality so for me working with 30 guys is so much easier then 30 women. They just handle and express things differently. I am also not a fan of and don't think I partake in passive aggressive behavior though this is something that I have witnessed happening in a predominately feminine work space. I should clarify that I use the word "feminine" instead of "female" because 1) those two terms are not synonymous and 2) in my experience it is the "feminine" personality as opposed to the "female" gender that participates in this passive aggressive behavior. So, back on track, there is a lot of the passive aggressive behavior that happens in my work space.
One of the staff that I had what I thought was a good relationship with, up to about two months ago when the above mentioned behaviors sparked an argument and then a silent treatment stand-off, announced that she has accepted a position with the other half of the team. She will be literally moving down the hall to another desk. It was a shock as 1) she doesn't talk to me unless she a) has to for work or b) I initiate the conversation. Now she is a great clinician and works hard to go above and beyond to help her clients but really only wants things done her way so sharing a caseload as she does now is not working for her. Both her and her partner are different in the way they handle their jobs. The are both great just different so having a caseload all to herself to manage as she sees fit is best for her. So, with this happening and the back-bone of 4-5 years of working together I needed to express my congratulations for her now matter how she responded or didn't. I had to remind myself that it was not about getting a response because I most likely won't; that I am not doing it to be liked or to please her or anyone else but to do it because I wanted to, she deserves it and it is right for me to do. It is what my spirit wants me to do. So I did."I know that in the last little while we have not seen eye to eye but I sincerely wish you the best in your new position. I think that it’s a great fit for you. If there is anything that I can do for you please ask. Again, congratulations on the new position. I’d wish you luck but you don’t need it."